Now that parts one and two have done some set up, next up on the agenda is to try to help my readers possibly identify some specifics about why things are not going as well in the love department as they want. From a karmic perspective actions you took created patterns that are the source of your frustration regarding love. So a logical question is what is the stupid stuff I did to get me in this fix. If you want to try and get a picture of this you take on the role of karmic detective. A detective looks for clues that reveal pieces to a puzzle. Once you have enough pieces to the puzzle it is quite possible to infer the rest of the picture to your satisfaction. A warning is needed before we get started on this. A good friend and teacher of mine who has a vast knowledge of spirituality, dharma, and more once warned me that you don’t want to know all of the bad actions you performed as we have had millions of lifetimes. I strongly recommend you check out his website at www.nobleworld.org. He is quite simply brilliant. The point my friend was making to me is that the weight of this knowledge might be crushing and ultimately not helpful. You want to only know what you need to know so that you can start to change your behavior and luck.
So back to being a karma detective and you are your client. Going into your memory banks, it shouldn’t be too hard to recall key moments in your important relationships that soured the relationship or even led them to fail. This is not the time to emphasize in your mind that the other person messed up more than you. This is the time to be objective and as honest with yourself as possible about what happened and why it happened. So after taking the courage to recall these things and recall them as objectively as possible, now you need to use your imagination to figure out what took place with you in the far past. So take this snapshot of these key events and now imagine that the role is reversed. If in one of those key moments, you were the one who was abused, manipulated, used etc, imagine you were the one doing the same thing to another person and that is why it happened to you this time around. Keep in mind it is not definite that this is the case but it is a reasonable assumption. The main point is to learn from the patterns in your life and be motivated to change for the better. If your heart truly yearns for an answer, God in time will reveal it to you.
As you contemplate that, lets take a look at how scary efficient karma is in imparting lessons to us within the fabric of already existing karmic energy. Let’s say over lifetimes a person has earned the good karma to have wealth and prestige in this lifetime. However, because of a multitude of selfish actions, they also have an insensitivity which leads to a pattern of abusing others. The Laws of Karma dictate a person gets to have his wealth and prestige however that wealth could also lead to excesses like drugs and alcohol which torments this person. For others who have also earned the good karma of wealth but without similar bad karma, wealth can give them a measure of happiness and peace of mind.
So shifting back to the present, use your current dissatisfaction and desire to get something you need to motivate yourself to start to stop whatever pattern of behavior you have identified as self-destructive. Am-ping up your willpower by commitment to this goal is of vital importance to changing your luck. This thought process is important because what typically goes through a persons mind and motivates them is what maintains that pattern as opposed to changing it. For example if you let your anger control your behavior, you are so stuck in a bad place . Clinging to this anger can not only make you stuck not just in this lifetime but also over many lifetimes. Their is a key to not letting your anger control your behavior but it isn’t easy to do. Anger is a reaction to not having a desire fulfilled. That desire could be something you have every right to expect and something that is vital to your well being. However for whatever reason, you don’t have it and can’t get it. It is good to have a resolve to get it but to allow your anger to be the primary emotion that motivates you in your quest is not good. This anger will at key junctures cloud your good judgment and keep your bad karma as your constant companion. It is entirely possible your fury may at some point gain you something in the short run that will make you feel good but in the long run it will also push you further away from the sublime sweet spot you long for. What makes your actions negative or positive is weighed more by your intent then the precise actions you take. For example a scalpel in the hands of a surgeon encapsulates the opposite intent of a thief with a knife in his hands.
Those moments when your desires are not satisfied thats the time to start building your good karma muscles. Resist as much as you possibly can giving into your anger. You may ultimately lose the battle but by performing this exercise you have now given yourself a real chance to win the war. Getting back to understanding your karma, maybe in recalling past events you are the selfish user abuser villain in some of the dramas you recall. Remorse is helpful to feel but hating yourself is very harmful. It seems pretty obvious to imagine that being in the role of the bad guy user abuser is really asking for trouble down the road. The obvious attraction to this role is you get things that make you feel good. It is pleasurable to bend others to your will along whatever other perks come along with that. Everybody wants things but at what price is it worth it. To call this path a slippery slope is an understatement as its more like a sheer cliff on a tall mountain.
In winding down this latest installment on the Karma of Love you need to know that knowledge is not enough. The spiritual bird flies on two wings, self-effort and grace. Using your effort to understand yourself is a start but you also need grace to truly transcend your negative karma. The kind of Grace needed to make big change in your karma can be elusive but it is attainable. In attempting to change your luck even though you may have armed yourself with knowledge if the element of grace is not at play in key moments your bad karma makes you forget what you need to know when you need to remember it the most. As mentioned in part 2 feeding people and animals will create good karma. There will be more specific advice along these lines down the road but following the basics is the real place to start. The basics in spirituality and dharma or morality as it is known in the West is about treating each other and ourselves with respect and love. This is often easier said then done. The reason for that is everyone in their mind has a floor and a ceiling for what they feel they deserve from others, ourselves and life in general. If you attempt in your dealings with others to go above or below these thresholds as defined by the person you are dealing with expect to catch some flak. However, as the saying goes nothing ventured nothing gained. So have courage and do good things do right things in time you will be rewarded.